Comments on: IT is not the place for women especially young mothers http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/ A Blog, A Website and A container for all my views with excerpts from technology, travel, films, india, photography, kannada, friends and other interests. I am Thejesh GN. Friends call me Thej Thu, 29 Jul 2010 09:27:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Roshan http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-2177 Roshan Thu, 03 Dec 2009 07:32:24 +0000 http://thejeshgn.com/?p=1490#comment-2177 Maternity leave + telecommuting for a short while after for reduced hours? Maternity leave + telecommuting for a short while after for reduced hours?

]]> By: Radhika http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-2155 Radhika Wed, 25 Nov 2009 05:26:59 +0000 http://thejeshgn.com/?p=1490#comment-2155 Easier said than done! Else we wouldn't be seeing all those expensive day care centres all around the place Easier said than done!
Else we wouldn’t be seeing all those expensive day care centres all around the place

]]> By: Lavanya http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-2153 Lavanya Thu, 19 Nov 2009 08:31:17 +0000 http://thejeshgn.com/?p=1490#comment-2153 joining in a little late in the discussion.. but these are my 2 cents.. the first 2-5 years for a child are the most important, just like the first 3 years are in our career.. whenever I have come across friends/colleagues who are faced with this dilema of whether to take a break for the child or pursue their career, I always prayed to God that I be given the strength to choose family over career.. it may be easier said than done, especially since I haven't faced the situation so far.. but I also know friends who have had a second kid just to enjoy parenthood because they missed it the first around. It is probably a good opportunity to also pursue a hobby or may be learn a new language, like what one of my neighbours is doing.. On the other hand, it pains me to see some ppl take the effort to go to work just for that bigger house or a better car! joining in a little late in the discussion.. but these are my 2 cents.. the first 2-5 years for a child are the most important, just like the first 3 years are in our career.. whenever I have come across friends/colleagues who are faced with this dilema of whether to take a break for the child or pursue their career, I always prayed to God that I be given the strength to choose family over career.. it may be easier said than done, especially since I haven’t faced the situation so far.. but I also know friends who have had a second kid just to enjoy parenthood because they missed it the first around. It is probably a good opportunity to also pursue a hobby or may be learn a new language, like what one of my neighbours is doing..
On the other hand, it pains me to see some ppl take the effort to go to work just for that bigger house or a better car!

]]> By: Kailash C http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-2152 Kailash C Thu, 19 Nov 2009 06:06:14 +0000 http://thejeshgn.com/?p=1490#comment-2152 @Pavanaja U B I am extremely sorry Dr, I am not a native..so I couldn't get it.. I ll be careful next time. @Pavanaja U B I am extremely sorry Dr, I am not a native..so I couldn’t get it.. I ll be careful next time.

]]> By: Thejesh GN http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-2150 Thejesh GN Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:05:53 +0000 http://thejeshgn.com/?p=1490#comment-2150 <br> <a href='./#comment-2148' rel="nofollow">@Kailash C</a> : I actually want young father also stay at home. And talking about education, I don't believe in big schools or colleges, <br> <a href='./#comment-2149' rel="nofollow">@Pavanaja U B</a> : :) @Kailash C : I actually want young father also stay at home. And talking about education, I don’t believe in big schools or colleges,
@Pavanaja U B : :)

]]> By: Pavanaja U B http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-2149 Pavanaja U B Wed, 18 Nov 2009 13:24:19 +0000 http://thejeshgn.com/?p=1490#comment-2149 @ Kailash C You said "One more interesting factor I am noticing here is, no woman except @Pavanaja is willing to leave her job" ha ha It seems you did not click on my name to see who I am. Please do now and will know :) @ Kailash C

You said “One more interesting factor I am noticing here is, no woman except @Pavanaja is willing to leave her job”

ha ha

It seems you did not click on my name to see who I am. Please do now and will know :)

]]> By: Kailash C http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-2148 Kailash C Wed, 18 Nov 2009 11:37:18 +0000 http://thejeshgn.com/?p=1490#comment-2148 I am seeing a sort of solution already present in the day to day life for this issue. Also, this is not a problem that is concerned only with IT industry. If both husband and wife are working, they reside in a place very close to the office of the lady. So, the 12 hours which you mention for work actually becomes 9 hours. Also, parents of either husband or wife, stay in home and take care of the kid at-least for few years till the kid goes to a play school. I have seen myself, people hiring maids here in Bangalore to take care of kids when grandparents are not available. Few young mothers go to home in lunch breaks to see their kids. Technology plays another role here. Cellphones help them to check once in a while about the kids. Crush is another option available for little grown up kids now. Taking a break is a very good and healthy option for the kids. AS @supriya said, many work because of necessity than for satisfaction. Leaving a job now in this crisis is not advisable, if you have plans to join the industry back sometime in future. It could create a wrong impression, mind you. Recently, I went to pick up application for my neighbor's kid LKG admission in a decent school. The application costs Rs500, donation is 40K and yearly fee is 20K. And Thej, you want the young mom to stay back in home. One more interesting factor I am noticing here is, no woman except @Pavanaja is willing to leave her job. Its all men who say,"Stay in home and watch the kid". Though it is said in a good intentions, sounds as a agony of male dominating world. lol..... Kailash C I am seeing a sort of solution already present in the day to day life for this issue. Also, this is not a problem that is concerned only with IT industry. If both husband and wife are working, they reside in a place very close to the office of the lady. So, the 12 hours which you mention for work actually becomes 9 hours. Also, parents of either husband or wife, stay in home and take care of the kid at-least for few years till the kid goes to a play school. I have seen myself, people hiring maids here in Bangalore to take care of kids when grandparents are not available. Few young mothers go to home in lunch breaks to see their kids. Technology plays another role here. Cellphones help them to check once in a while about the kids. Crush is another option available for little grown up kids now.
Taking a break is a very good and healthy option for the kids. AS @supriya said, many work because of necessity than for satisfaction. Leaving a job now in this crisis is not advisable, if you have plans to join the industry back sometime in future. It could create a wrong impression, mind you. Recently, I went to pick up application for my neighbor’s kid LKG admission in a decent school. The application costs Rs500, donation is 40K and yearly fee is 20K. And Thej, you want the young mom to stay back in home.

One more interesting factor I am noticing here is, no woman except @Pavanaja is willing to leave her job. Its all men who say,”Stay in home and watch the kid”. Though it is said in a good intentions, sounds as a agony of male dominating world. lol…..

Kailash C

]]> By: Pavanaja U B http://thejeshgn.com/2009/11/17/it-is-not-the-place-for-women-especially-young-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-2146 Pavanaja U B Wed, 18 Nov 2009 08:30:45 +0000 http://thejeshgn.com/?p=1490#comment-2146 Thej, I agree with you. One person must sacrifice for the sake of family. In India, as is the case or by default, it is the mother (don't call me a MCP). In IT, taking a break and then coming back is not easy -both for male or female. Atleast, women can give the reason. Whatever reason give by men will be looked with suspicion. I have seen many ladies in IT taking break for becoming mother and taking care of children. As rightly pointed out by you, it is difficult for them to come back into IT industry. Most of them go and join teaching profession. In a way it s good on many fronts. The profession does not demand the kind of time/pressure as in IT, the IT education sector badly needs good faculty, espcially, industry experienced. I am not advocating this. But I appreciate this. -Pavanaja Thej,

I agree with you. One person must sacrifice for the sake of family. In India, as is the case or by default, it is the mother (don’t call me a MCP). In IT, taking a break and then coming back is not easy -both for male or female. Atleast, women can give the reason. Whatever reason give by men will be looked with suspicion. I have seen many ladies in IT taking break for becoming mother and taking care of children. As rightly pointed out by you, it is difficult for them to come back into IT industry. Most of them go and join teaching profession. In a way it s good on many fronts. The profession does not demand the kind of time/pressure as in IT, the IT education sector badly needs good faculty, espcially, industry experienced. I am not advocating this. But I appreciate this.

-Pavanaja

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